How many secrets are there to your success? Just the one actually. But it's just the one... each day! One more thing, if you want to take today's video with you... you can download the audio here.
The next time it happens (and it will) nip it in the bud! We all often worry about what others think of us. But they don't - you are irrelevant to normal crazy people - they are consumed with worrying about what you think of them!
There are lots of ways to nip this in the bud. But it all boils down to being in control of your own state of mind, moment-to-moment. So, as always, to help you on this journey, you have plenty of resources at your fingertips...
It's true, the one true secret to your success is being in control of your own state of mind - to fully awaken to the possibilities and opportunities of the moment. But awakening is not good enough. We need to stay awake. We must persevere.
In conversation with a client for the first time, a few weeks ago, I was assailed by a litany of all that was wrong: anxiety, worry, lack of motivation, stress, disrupted sleep, inability to see the wood for the trees, etc., etc., etc... as I say, I was assailed!
In response I said "You know... there is a silver bulleet." Yes, a single solution to everything that our thinking mind can conjure up. There's just one minor something else that we need to understand in relation to this silver bullet... we need to shoot ourselves every day. Every single day.
We must persevere.
If we dissect this word, you'll find that it sounds, well... severe. But nothing could be further from the truth. Imagine lavishing half-a-dozen minutes of clarity and calm on yourself every morning! As many of my clients tell me, it is the most rewarding of experiences and it sets them up for the day. Every single day.
As normally-minded people - and, remember, if you start meditating at, say, forty-five years of age, you've thirty -three years of everyday madness under your belt!- we give up too easily. Build a routine. Build meditation into that routine. Seven days per week.
To paraphrase Calvin Coolidge, perseverance is omnipotent.
Imagine knowing that you can clear your mind each morning in the full and certain knowledge that it will set you off in the best direction for the day ahead. And imagine only doing this Monday to Friday!
Imagine fogetting to meditate first thing and deciding before your first cup of coffee that you'll start again tomorrow! As if, if you'd forgotten to brush your teeth, you'd put it off until tomorrow!
And imagine extolling the virtues of recapitulation to your friends, telling them that, every time you do it before you go to bed, you have an amazing night's sleep... and every time you don't you don't sleep well at all.