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Coaching Videos & Tips - October 17 2019 No.623

CONTROL -> INFLUENCE -> RESULTS

If my goals depend on the input or behaviour of others (which they invariably do!) how would "setting my mind" enable me achieve my goals?  Excellent question - straight from an Online Programmer(!) last week - and explored in today's video...

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Today's Quick Tip

What kind of influence have you been on others so far today?  Do you reckon you're making the right moves and leaving the right impression?  Take a minute to "check-in" with yourself - we need to constantly evaluate and re-evaluate so we can keep ourselves on our toes and in the zone.   Oooh - and one more thing you might be interested in...

UPCOMING FACEBOOK LIVE EVENTS From November, I'll be on Facebook Live - for starters once each month.  On Tuesday November 19th I"ll be talking about stress and how to rid yourself of it.  My Facebook Live Events will be flagged in advance on my Facebook Page - so, if you want to make sure that you know what's happening and when, simply click here to join me on Facebook.

Many years ago, when I worked in the financial services industry, I had the dubious pleasure of knowing one of the world's worst salesmen!  His glass was always half empty, his diary always over full and his life was one long moan.  And, yet, from one year to the next, he always managed to struggle towards achieving his target - but it was a real struggle lasting up into Christmas week.

Over a cup of coffee one morning, I suggested to him that he remove the big sticker that he had plastered across his forehead.  "What are you talking about?" he asked - to which I replied "The big sticker that says 'Do Not Buy Anything from Me!"   At first he was upset and annoyed but, after a bit of chat, he began to understand that, any time he walked into a broker's office, he was giving off all the wrong signals... he was one of the last people in the world an insurance broker would want to spend time with.

What is inside is displayed outside.  OK, the above example might be a little extreme (but I can assure you I am not exaggerating it) but we are constantly advertising our inner world through our outer actions and it has a dramatice effect on everyone around us.  Some people are great company, others are Energy Vampires - some people inspire others, others drag people down. 

If our minds are operating on auto-pilot, as the normal mind does, our big display advertisments - like the banner across my friend's forehead - give out whatever random message our noisy random mind has rattling through our head at the time.  Unfortunately for the normally-minded, repeated research shows that, if left to its own devices, the normal mind has a predeliction for the negative - so, on auto-pilot, we're always giving out what we would normally call "negative vibes".

In stark contrast, if you are in charge of your own state of mind - and, by now, you know how simple it is to do this - you give off just the right subconscious and subliminal signals that will enable you make the right impression with the right people at the right time.  And the beauty of it is, you don't have to think about it... in the zone, it just happens.

Now, don't get me wrong.  I'm not talking about being "positive" instead of our normal default negtive.  Positive thinking is just thinking and we don't get anything from life by thinking - we get it from doing, from being.  I'm talking about being present - fully immersed in the present moment.  That's the key message from today's video, it's actually the most important message you could hear in your life because, the more present you become, the more you start living it... to the full.

We all know Energy Vampires - people who you spend a few minutes with and then need to lie down for a few hours!  People who cast a dark cloud over everything.  Well, on Monday evening, we met The Princess of Darkness!

We were out for a meal and had just been seated at our table when another couple, of a similar age, were shown to a table behind us. I couldn't see the lady in question (Lisa could) but I could certainly hear her.

It started with her lecturing her partner (reckon it was her husband) on what he could and could not eat - nothing to do with his health and wellbeing - all to do with price.  At the top of her voice she enumerated the price of everything on the menu and suggested they could order one starter, one main course and one dessert... all to be shared. And, no, he couldn't have wine - had he not seen the price.  He could have a shandy (beer and lemonade) and she would have water. 

It was just at this moment that I ordered our wine... everyone in the restaurant was stunned by the Princess's top-of-her-voice pronouncement - "Look at that scum at the next table - just orders a €25 bottle of wine like that!" and she clicked her fingers - "scum" is a polite translation from the French!

But I'm running out of room and this story has only started - we're going to have to continue it next week... actually it might make a whole mini-series!

   

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