Is it a state of mind? Are we wired that way? Is it an excuse for where we are in our lives and where we don't really want to be? When it comes to you, only you know the answers to these questions... but today's video explores anyway!!
Today's Quick Tip couldn't be simpler... watch today's short video! No "I don't have the time" - because you have and, if you haven't it's because you're wasting time... possibly indulging in what today's video is not about! No "But my life is really hard" - it's ten times harder if you think that way. No "I'll look at it later" - how presumptious that you'll have a later! Watch it now.
And, if you'd like to go a little deeper, don't forget that you can browse all 609 "back issues" in The Archive!
Some of the problems challenges and issues that I explore with my clients are often described by them, themselves, as "first world problems"... in other words, to use a good old-fashioned Irishism "there's plenty of people worse off"! And, of course, whilst this is stating the bleedin' obvious, it suggests that, first of all, we should be thankful for small mercies and, secondly, we shouldn't strive to better ourselves. The first is true - we should be thankful (that's what today's video is all about) but not for these so-called "small mercies" but thankful for the opportunity to live our lives to the full in the here and now.
The second suggestion - that we shouldn't strive to better ourselves - is unnatural. Even the seeds of weeds that fall between the cracks in concrete spring forth towards the sun, seeking to better themselves. And, although evolution saw to it that we stayed within the parameters of our comfort zone, we were always striving to enhance that comfort zone... that's the point of evolution!
In the early 2000s, as world economies boomed - or bubbled as it turned out - "bettering yourself" was calibrated in material terms. Post 2008, many people with whom I spoke thought (and we all know how dangerous that can be!) that people had learned their lesson... "people now value the simple things in life" (or a variation of that sentiment) was something I heard regularly. Do you still believe that - of others, of yourself?
Bettering yourself is not something you do in the future... the only time and place you can do anything is here and now. Being present and focused here and now, however, will lead to better here and nows down the road. You get the message!
A few more big "Whys" this week... I'm always in awe of the nonsense that's going on around me:
Why do supermarkets provide express service to the shoppers who are spending the least?
Why do motorists who are in the wrong shout loudest? (Actually, I think I know the answer to this one... because they know they're in the wrong!)
Why do we (who should know better) allow ourselves to be dragged into normal crazy people's dramas, conspiracy theories or bitching (with apologies for the language)? That is a why you really need to ask yourself.