Yes, you read the headline correctly! We are afraid to achieve grand objectives, we are afraid of going so far outside our comfort zone that we might find the life that we really, really want. Today's video is the start of series... so, let's get going.
Think about your faults and failings, your perceived inadequacies. Get a pen and paper and write them down... take your time, work yourself over, be hard on yourself.
When you've written everything down, when you've whipped yourself enough, take the piece of paper and... tear it up.
The key word in the first sentence of today's Quick Tip was "perceived"!
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I'm going to pursue last week's conversation on presence because, in the intervening week or so, a number of people have asked me how to deal with what might loosely be described as "crap"... although far more descriptive language has been employed over the last seven days by some of my clients!
Today's video talks about fear - fear of success. But, on an ordinary everyday basis, people are afraid of the situation into which they have been backed, the person who is bullying them, the inappropriate behaviour of others or, indeed, their own perceived inability to act, instead of react (because we all know that reaction only fans the flames).
My answer - in fact the answer - is always the same. If you are present, you know how to act. You know what to do and what not to do, what to say and what not to say and, most importantly, you know how to take the appropriate action to get you to where you want to go which, for starters, is less "crap". A present person always knows which buttons to push and levers to pull, just as much as she or he knows what opportunities to take or what trapdoors to sidestep. Presence makes it all easy... dare I say, effortless.
Presence of mind and knowing what you want from life are all that you need for wonderful life. And, really, your life should be wonderful, because this is it.
We're getting ready for the annual evening of fun and food in our area - an event that moves around some of the larger farm properties each year.
This morning I bumped into the guy who lives in the farm opposite - like many French farms, he lives there with his wife and family, so does his brother with his and so does his sister with her husband!
He had been asked to host this year's event. And, as you might have predicted, the three guys are up for the big party. But, when the three girls found out, they were quickly told "There's no way you're letting the neighbours see the mess you guys have got this place into over the years!"
This year's venue has yet to be announced!